Thursday, February 28, 2013

Offering Support

So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are).

But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.

- John Green

So so true.  I’ve always felt this way about being ‘cheered up’ when I’m feeling down.  Is there anything in life worse than feeling pain, but having to put on a performance so that someone else can feel they’ve done their job of making you feel better?


MARTA said...

I think it's ok to be sad and i think that if people do care for you, they'll try to connect with you and tell you things to ease the pain while understanding your sadness. In any way, John Green has a great point here. Besos :)

monica said...

i understand where you are coming from - sometimes you just dont need another "it's going to be okay..."

Ashley said...

YES. There is a time for tears and a time for smiles. Sometimes, they shouldn't be mixed.